God’s Prescription for Great Sex. Mothers Day.

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1 God’s Prescription for Great Sex

2 Mothers Day

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5 Substance Abuse

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7 Sex is the Anwser Lonely, randy, sad, happy

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10 Natasha Kampusch

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12 Church Views Sex is dirty I must save it for the one I marry

13 Sex is necessary evil Sex is venial sin and speculated that only Adam and Eve had sex without sin as it was done in a very controlled fashion without lust, without the instincts of the flesh. St Augustine of Hippo

14 Martin Luther “The reproduction of mankind is a great marvel and a mystery. Had God consulted me in the matter, I should have advised Him to continue the generation of the species by fashioning them of clay”

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16 Neoplatonism

17 Plato Gnostics -2nd Century

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19 Lady Hillingdon “ I Am happy now that Charles calls on my bed chamber less frequently than of old. As it is I endure but two calls a week and when I hear his steps outside my door, I lie down on my bed, close my eyes, open my legs and think of England”

20 Christian Purity

21 Abstain from sex Thurs to honour Lord’s supper Friday to commerate Crucifixion Sat to honor Blessed Virgin Mary Sunday for the Ressurection Monday for the Poor Souls…. DS Bailey in Ranke-Heinemann and Heinegg “Eunuchs for the kingdom” p22

22 Thank God for TUESDAY

23 Biblical View of Sex

24 Song of Solomon 4:1 Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful! … Songs of Solomon 7:6-9

25 … Your eyes are doves behind your veil Liveliness and fluttering about Veil hides and accentuates

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29 ..Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead.

30 Song of Solomon 4:1 Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead. Waves of goats hair shimmering in the sun Against back ground of darkhills

31 Song of Solomon 4:2 2 Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost its young. No decay

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34 Song of Solomon 4:2 2 Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost its young. No decay

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36 Song of Solomon 4:3 3 Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely.

37 Song of Solomon 4:3 Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate behind your veil. Lots of seed symbol of fertility,,fruit as sexual metaphor

38 Song of Solomon 4:4 4 Your neck is like the tower of David, built in rows of stone; on it hang a thousand shields, all of them shields of warriors.

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40 Woman of substance And dignity No man can plunder Her she gives it Willingly She is secure in herself

41 Song of Solomon 4:5 5 Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, that graze among the lilies. Delicate, vibrant, nourished..Twin-Symmetery-Balance

42 Song of Solomon 4:6 6 Until the day breathes and the shadows flee, I will go away to the mountain of myrrh and the hill of frankincense. Coming of morning pop song all night long) Aromatic spices that intoxicate

43 Song of Solomon 1:13 13 My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh that lies between my breasts. Woman speaking

44 Song of Solomon 4:7 7 You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you. Do you really have to be a perfect woman?

45 He is describing not what she looks like But what he feels!!

46 Song of Solomon 4:8 8 Come with me from Lebanon, my bride; come with me from Lebanon. Depart from the peak of Amana, from the peak of Senir and Hermon, from the dens of lions, from the mountains of leopards.

47 1. Great Sex is linked to Great Romance

48 John Piper In order for romance to deepen you must touch the heart and the mind of your wife before you touch her body Sex and the Supremacy of Christ p 166 Sex is not just a bodily function you have To discharge.

49 Female Sexual Problems in KL Orgasmic problems 59.1% Low sexual arousal 60.9% Sexual Dissatisfaction 52.2% Hatta Sidi et al J Sex Med 2007;4:311-321 230 women

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51 The Pill is not the only Anwser!! IMPROVEMENT IN EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING AND RELATIONSHIPS OF USERS OF SILDENAFIL PAIGE et al 29% of respondents indicated that using sildenafil had definitely improved the relationship with their partner The other 2/3? J Urol Volume 166(5) November 2001 pp 1774-1778

52 Male Brain

53 Female Brain Rosie King comment

54 Dr Rosie King

55 2. Great Sex occurs in exclusive relationships

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60 Sex as a human appetite 1 Corinthians 6:13 13 "Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food"- and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.

61 Song of Solomon 4:12-15 12 A garden locked is my sister, my bride, a spring locked, a fountain sealed. 13 Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates with all choicest fruits, henna with nard, 14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense, myrrh and aloes, with all chief spices- 15 a garden fountain, a well of living water, and flowing streams from Lebanon. Exclusivity

62 Exclusivity heightens enjoyment Proverbs 5:15-19 15 Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. 16 Should your springs be scattered abroad, streams of water in the streets? 17 Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you.

63 Immorality Diminishes the full experience of sex Reduces our own capacity to give in totality Immorality

64 Great Sex occurs in an exclusive relationship Song of Solomon 2:6-7 6 His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me! 7 I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or the does of the field, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases. Prob with porn

65 Female Brain

66 Genesis 2:21-23 21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said, "This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man."

67 Boundaries of Sex Genesis 2:24-25 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. Total emotional -psychological Outward sign

68 Sex as a human appetite 1 Corinthians 6:13 13 "Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food"- and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.

69 1 Corinthians 6:15-16 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, "The two will become one flesh."

70 1 Cor 6: 18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 20 yr old promiscuous -neurotic Std

71 Jim Bakker I knew that what I was doing went directly against everything I believed as a Christian. I had never cheated on my wife in all our years of marriage. Jessica Hahn, however, seemed quite comfortable with the situation. I simply abandoned myself to the moment. We did not make love; we had sex. When it was over, I quickly left the room

72 Jim Bakker disrobed and immediately stepped into the shower, turning the water on as hot as I could stand it. I never felt so dirty in all my life. Maybe if I make the water hotter, it will wash it all away, I thought. Jim Bakker, I Was Wrong, (Nelson, 1996), p. 21.

73 Immorality degrades your partners UN Population Fund (UNFPA) said 21/9/2000 London Four million women and girls across the world are bought and sold into marriage, prostitution or slavery each year

74 Child prostitute -Dhaka “ I am angry at my fate. If my mother was well she would have arranged a good marriage for me and I would not have to suffer this shame. My life is ruined. I want to learn a new skill so I can earn money and look after my mother. No one will want to marry me because of what's happened to me. I wont live long and before I die I will pray 5 times a day to God to apologise for what has happened. Sex Slaves Louise Brown 2000

75 3. Great sex requires us to release and enjoy each other

76 Song of Solomon 7: 7 Your stature is like that of the palm,

77 Song of Solomons 7 and your breasts like clusters of fruit.

78 I said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.”

79 May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine

80 Song of Solomons 7:7b-8 the fragrance of your breath like apples,

81 and your mouth like the best wine.

82 Need to be comfortable with our sexuality May the wine go straight to my lover,flowing gently over lips and teeth

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85 Song of Solomon 4:9-10 9 You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace. 10 How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much better is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!

86 Proverbs 5:15-19 15 Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. …..18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, 19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.

87 Genesis 1:27 27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

88 Genesis 2:19-23 … 20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. corresponded (neged complimentary)

89 It is not It is not dirty It does not have a self life

90 4. Great sex requires priority in our marriage

91 Conjugal Rights 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Mutual conjugal rights not only man

92 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

93 More Important than Golf TV Children Coaching Cooking Cleaning Friends

94 More important than Ageing

95 Proverbs 5:15-19 15 Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. …..18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, 19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. Prob with ageing

96 Duke First Longitudinal Study of Aging, which observed 270 men and women for 25 years Frequency of sexual intercourse is inversely related to death in men Enjoyment of intercourse is inversely related to death in women

97 Duke First Longitudinal Study of Aging “frequency of intercourse was a significant predictor of longevity for men”

98 God’s Prescription for Great Sex Romance-Appreciation Exclusive Relationship-Marriage Release and enjoy each other Priority in our marriage